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| Father's peace and healed family relationships — Joyce — Friday, January 19, 2007 |
Here is the situation: Our father has been heavily into new age and mystical religious practices ever since we were kids, and I really believe that it messed him up. When we were teenagers he left my mom (and us) to live with a woman who also shared his beliefs. A few years later he left her, and has increasingly become more isolated and more alone. My younger sister, has an inlaw apartment on her house, and to our surprise he agreed to move in there about a year ago. But it didn’t go well. He was rude and mean to her kids, he complained about how they were mistreating him to anyone who would listen, and yesterday he moved out. He has left behind more hurt, and more broken relationships. He is filled with self pity, resentment, and I think he is a bit paranoid. Quite honestly, I avoid him because he is so unpleasant, and because I’m afraid of him. I’m pretty sure that my sister feels the same way now. But I feel guilty for avoiding him, I don’t think it is what God wants me to do. And I know he only has a few years left to live. But I can’t think of any way to approach him because all he wants to talk about to me is how awful my sister is. And she is a beautiful Christian woman who tried her best to make this work. We need your prayers, that his heart might somehow heal, and also some advice.
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| Sue's Answer |
Dear Joyce well you certainly have my prayers.. I think that your situation reflects the situation of so many people in the world today.. and the challenge is that we cannot change anyone else only ourselves... and then the challenge is to find the strength to stay true to our real self no matter how others might be around us. Then we might find that with love and example they begin to come to another way of being and even if they do not we stay true to our principles.. I have just returned from India where the father of their nation Gandhi said.. we must be the example that we wish to see in the world.. In that way maybe we are sent those people and those situations that mirror back to us the very things we need to search for in our own hearts and in that way they are a gift to us in disguise... And I wish that as you find your way forward that your example ripples out into the world around you and beyond.. Very sincerely, |